Big dick energy – you know it when you see it. Not physically – well, not necessarily. It’s an attitude. A swagger. A vibe.
You don’t even need a penis to have BDE. Rihanna, for example? Really strong BDE. David Beckham, not so much.
But those who took a 20-minute break from social media and returned to find their timeline full of big dick energy chat are asking each other: what is it?
While it sounds like it has been round forever, the phrase first appeared on Twitter this week in relation to Ariana Grande.
Grande tweeted, then deleted, about the generous endowment of her fiance Pete Davidson. The internet was delighted. Davidson, a comedian and star of Saturday Night Live who is very charismatic but perhaps not conventionally attractive, “exudes big dick energy”, according to Twitter user
BDE has always been with us, even if we haven’t the phrase to describe it: it’s charisma and confidence, coupled with the ability to almost instantly make other people feel good. In some ways, it’s the opposite of toxic masculinity.
“Big dick energy does not care for your pathetic gender binary and will not pander to it,” wrote Vice. “Chris Hemsworth wielding a ludicrously big hammer with arms the size of cows and yelling a lot? Feeble big dick energy. Cate Blanchett simply standing there smirking, but, like, only using her eyes somehow? Powerful, powerful big dick energy.”
According to the Verge: “Rihanna? Big dick energy. Cardi B? Big dick energy. Cate Blanchett? Big dick energy.” It’s apparently unanimous re: Cate.
The Cut described it as “a certain gait – sort of like you’ve got a massive dick swinging around – but also a twinkle in the eye, like if you look right at that twinkle you can see a dick swinging in the eye.” Justins Bieber and Theroux have got it, they thought; Idris Elba for sure; Timberlake, not so much.
