A former dogger has spoken out in support of the ‘minority sport’ and revealed his favourite memories of the public sex activity.
The man, who wishes to remain anonymous, says he started dogging in his early 30s.
Speaking to the Liverpool Echo he slammed prudes who stereotype doggers as “mac-wearing perverts”.
He claims that the x-rated activity shouldn’t be a problem for non-doggers.
He said: “In the main, doggers are not mac-wearing perverts, or social misfits. Many drive nice cars, have regular jobs and live in suburbia.
“They are the type of people who live next door to you or work with you.
“What they all have in common is that they are turned on by the thrill of having sex in public.
“There really is no one stereotype. They are of all ages, shapes, sizes and backgrounds.
“I never came across an instance where a couple didn’t insist on condoms being worn – those involved in the scene practice safe sex.
“This is not a social scourge that is causing distress to unsuspecting locals. It is a minority sport, taking place at remote beauty spots away from residential areas, mainly late at night.
“I understand why it mightn’t float most people’s boat but the prudes shouldn’t be allowed to spoil the fun for others because of their own sexual hang-ups.”
There are two types of dogging – pre-arranged and the spontaneous meet-up.
Couples put on a “show” having sex in their car while letting others watch.
There are different ways of letting voyeurs know it’s OK to come closer. Flashing headlights and switching interior lights on and off are two of the accepted signs.
An open passenger door means “come on inside”, according to our former dogger.
It tends to be a seasonal activity with the majority of it happening in the warmer weather and dogging almost exclusively takes place after dark.
“It was the internet that first alerted me to dogging,” the man said.
“I’ve always been a voyeur and the thought of meeting random couples to have sex was a real turn on. Then I found a website with a list of locations.
“I must admit to being sceptical when I parked up on a midweek summer evening. But after a while my attention was drawn to a group of men gathered around a car about 50 yards away.”
He says that the couple ended the “show” because they were “put off by the number of men”.
That experience prompted a decade of dipping in and out of the dogging scene.
The man said: “I found it attracted people of all ages and social classes. Some couples make arrangements to meet by posting on internet forums, but I always preferred the spontaneous meet.”
He says he had many memorable moments during his decade on the dogging scene.
He said: “My most memorable moments included sex with a woman in the back of a BMW X5 while her partner sat in the front listening to the radio.
“The time a couple knocked on my window claiming they had a flat battery and asking if they could sit in my car for warmth which led to me having sex with the guy’s missus.
“There was the couple who invited me to follow them back to their flat in Wallasey before I bottled out on the stairs as I thought it was a set up (I later found out from another dogger that they were completely genuine).
“I vividly recollect when I was invited by a young couple to get involved in a sex session in their estate car on a private road near the oil refinery at Eastham, which came to an abrupt end when a security guard arrived.”
Alongside the spontaneous meet-ups the man says he also got to know couples who would become regular partners.
More often than not people can find themselves sitting in car parks alone rather than enjoying a night of passion, he claimed
He said: “Looking back, I wasted many hundreds of hours of my life sat in car parks where nothing happened – afraid to leave in case a couple turned up minutes after I’d left.
“Driving from dogging site to dogging site, up and down the Wirral, in search of action that never came.
“Sitting in vain next to a couple who weren’t looking for stranger sex but were just having a takeaway in their car on the way home from a night at the cinema.”
Fellow doggers would also get in the way, making territorial plays for prospective couples.
“Some have no patience and will tail a couple in their car from the second they arrive, pulling up inches away from their vehicle, rather than letting them settle in and get down to it at their own pace.
“Many’s the time I saw a couple leave, sick of being hassled. I got to recognise the culprits, and would sit there, silently seething, knowing the night was a write-off, at least until they left.
“At one point, it was not unusual for me to be out until 2am, returning home and getting a few hours sleep before staggering, bleary-eyed, into work the next morning.
“Dogging was like a drug and the adrenaline rush from the thought of something happening meant it was a hard habit to break.
“Then there were the risks and not just of being caught in the act by the police. When I started, not many people knew what the term ‘dogging’ meant, but newspaper coverage of footballer Stan Collymore [and other celebrities] changed all that.
“Coupled with the internet, suddenly it became much more well-known.
“This attracted more and more boy racers, usually in battered Vauxhall Corsas, who charged up and down with their headlights on main beam, beeping their horns at doggers.”
The man says he was hounded by boy racers and threatened by another dogger for approaching a couple the man was interested in.
“On one occasion I was tailgated out of the site and jeered as they [boy racers] pulled alongside me on the dual carriageway.
“You are also at risk from aggressive doggers: one guy in a Ford Focus threatened to deck me after I approached a couple, even though I was there before him and had previously witnessed him muscle in on other meets.
“Now older and wiser, I do recognise that I took risks with my personal safety and it is one of the main reasons I weaned myself off it. But I would defend the right of others to do it, as long as it is done discreetly at a time when the general public are not around,” he added.
